We all grow up dreaming about our weddings! What I never fantasized about was running between stores and trying to buy outfits that is supposed to be with me to take to my new home. Call it trousseau or any other fancy name, I still think this is a form of “Dowry”!!! ooooooooooooooh ya I used the forbidden word. Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against dowry, we also have it in Iran. It is just the way it is done here that I have a problem with. In Iran, the groom is supposed to buy or rent a place for his new bride to move in. So after that place is picked (this usually happens before the wedding), the bride furnishes her new home! Wether more money is spent or not, I am sure it differs case to case. However, it is definitely less trouble. You visit furniture shops, appliance shops and etc, pay, and they deliver!
Now let’s look at Indian style, you have to accumulate as many little and big things as you can. For months going from store to store, shops, exhibitions, designers to pick clothing. Then starts the shoe, purse, make up and more shopping. Oh and when everything is purchased, you are still not done! Now you have to spend more time and money into packing them!
Personally, and I mean no disrespect to any culture, but I think the few months before the wedding should be devoted to the bride to be to relax! All the stress and running around doesn’t do well for the hair and skin! And believe me, everything is stressful unless you have so much money that you just go to the best designer drop the cash and tell them to make all your clothes!
Please Please Leave me your comments (Encourage me through my Trousseau shopping ;-))
No, believe me, it is not what you think! We haven’t had a fight and I’m not talking about getting married. I am Microsoft Excel fanatic, I use it for everything. I even use it to plan a regular simple dinner for two. So obviously, I have my excel all set up for my wedding planning. The way I plan it is, I have a total fixed budget which is distributed amongst different categories such as clothing, jewelry, actual wedding and etc. My goal so far has been to have cash leftover to save it. Blame it on my few years working as an accountant or actually working hard and valuing the money. The problem is, saving cash is not easy when you have a limited budget and you want the best 😦 . So I was thinking, maybe we should do all or nothing. Maybe it is smart not to have a wedding at all and spend the entire money on purchasing a property no matter how far or how small. So many people say that anything in Mumbai or surrounding neighborhoods will appreciate.
The other option is not to be very smart, go with my heart and spend all the money on the wedding.
So I discussed the options with my fiance. Both of us are studying and analyzing the options!
So I want to know what you guys think! Please take my poll.
Well I should say another visit to two jewelry stores. First store we went to were absolutely ridiculously expensive. Their sets were not even close to our budget, everything was oversized. I really don’t understand the purpose of buying something that you would wear once and then you have to lock up in a safe. There was one hoop earring with diamonds that after a discount of 1 lakh would come to 4.4 lakhs. For some that may be nothing, but let’s put that into consideration. 4.4 lakhs is approximately $10,000. Believe me it didn’t look like a $10,000 earring. Then I finally liked a set. A very delicate one with detachable pendant. It was 40 Lakhs. You must be kidding me! With the current state of economy you could buy a flat for that price in U.S. Makes you wonder! Is it really smart to spend that much on a set? I guess the answer is, if you have it and there is no pressure, why not!! Then we went to another store, I saw a wedding ring a round 1.28 carats for 6.5 lakhs. Don’t know if that is within the budget or not! I was only told to take a look so I can get an idea! At the first store we were told that the 4.4 lakh earring is an award winner piece and we won’t be able to find anything remotely close to it. Guess what?! In the second store, we found the exact same earring in a rose gold finish, only smaller. So much for not ever seeing anything like it! I saw a choker also that was about 29 lakh but was told it could be done in a smaller version.
I don’t know how much is a lot! Let me know what you think, how much do you think is reasonable to spend on your wedding set?!
I have always been the jewelry lover like most other women. I always loved the light and delicate items I would get in Iran which usually came from Italian designers.
As I have been thinking about putting together the sets I will buy for myself, I kept insisting that I will get my sets from Iran. My fiance insisted I should take a look at designs here before making a decision. So finally I agreed to go with my In-Laws to be to a jewelry store here in Mumbai. We went to Anmol Jewellers on Turner road in Bandra West.
All I have to say is “Oh Amazing!”. There are sets of God & Uncut diamonds so different from what I am used to. So hot! And then there were the diamond sets. Some looked very similar to our designs.
I have become a fan of the choker style cause that one is very uncommon to see in Iran.
We didn’t buy anything considering it was the first store we were visiting and the prices were too much! We did however put aside few sets in case we want to go back.
Let me know what has been your experience so far if you are shopping for your Jewelry sets!
As I’m planning my own wedding, I am learning a lot too. So for those of you who are not familiar with an Indian wedding I give a little info based on what I have learned so far. An Indian wedding preparation is not only picking out the venue, food, guest list and your dress. There is a whole preparation going on as what to take with you when you are moving to your husband’s home. Being from Iran, I’m used to this concept though I have to say Iranian concept is much less complicated. In Persian weddings, you furnish the apartment your husband to be has rented or purchased for the two of you to start your life in. In an Indian wedding you could take anything which is for yourself and for the house and the family. Most common items are bags of clothes, shoes, purses, make up as well as dinner set, Jewelry, gold and anything valuable. Some also purchase gifts for the groom’s family the extend of which depends on your financial status and ability. When you move, you obviously take your own belongings that you already have, but you have to also purchase all these new clothing and accessories.
And these purchases are the complication. In addition to financial burden, there is so much effort put into picking the best outfits. There is no upper limit to what price range and how many pieces to get. Someone told me it’s smart to go with lucky numbers for example 11 sarees, 21 casual outfits and etc. I personally think it is a good idea and I may do 7,11,21.
Let me know if you are also in the process of putting together your “truzzo”!!